Me (M18) and my GF (F18) have been together for 2 months and never offers to meet first and I feel like im Intruding into her life. What should i do?
Me (M18) and my Girlfriend (F18) have been together for 2 months now, we live 2h away from eachother by public transport, but that isn't a big problem really. For a while it's been bothering me that she never asked to meet, she has a lot of plans, in the first month of our relationships she left for 3 weeks for a scout camp, then she left for vacations with her parents twice, and both of those things i compeltely understand and dont blame her in any way. Once, she apologized me for the fact that we meet very rarely and i told her that there is nothing to be sorry for and its not her fault. But the thing that bothers me is when she actually has free time she never asks to meet me, im the one that offers to meet. For example she and her female best friend have 3 days of the next week planned already, and plan a lot of things and i just wonder if her best friend has to do with why she cant meet sometimes, becouse a lot of times i hear that she cant meet becouse her best friend that and this, for example they do sleepovers like every few days, maybe im just jealous becouse she and her best friend meet more than we do, and i know that i cant aks her to be her priority more that her, becouse its her decision with who she spends her time with, or maybe im just overthinking. She says that she misses me very often and i do believe her but i just dont understand why she sometimes doesnt come with the initative and offers to meet. One idea that comes to my mind is that maybe it's just my job as a man to come with the initative but sometimes i just feel unwanted and like im intruding into her life. I've been in a few friendships that looked like this where i wanted to meet that person and the other person didnt and the other way around and maybe thats why i feel that way, but for me it doesnt make sense that she never offers to meet, where i know that she loves me and misses me, we can talk thru phone for 5 hours every day and for example today we fell asleep with eachother thru phone, when we meet we dont want to leave each other etc. But it just seems weird to me and im really out of ideas as of why that is. Im planning on talking with her about that but maybe im missing something here. Or maybe im overthinking this entire thing. I had an idea to just stop asking her to meet to see if she would ask but I just cant get myself to do that becouse i miss her too bad.
Please give me an advice becouse im starting to overthink this enitre thing.
Posted Aug 24, 2024, 1:04 PM UTC