What causes a band/artist to be popular amongst trenders?

I'm a bit disappointed to find out that some of the artists I listen too are extremely popular amongst trenders, particularly theyfab types. It's low-key made me a tad dysphoric in a weird way. When a cis man likes "women's music" it's Taylor Swift or Lady Gaga, when it's me, a trans man, it's artists like Mother Mother, Hozier, IDKHBTFM, Shayfer James, and other similar artists. What causes a certain type of music to predominantly be listened to by trender types? It's usually labelled "queer music", frankly I don't know how Jack Stauber or Will Wood is "queer music". Especially when most, if not all, of these artists are straight men. I hate listening to music I like only to feel like some theyfab female. (Sorry if I sound unhinged, I'm high).