Hi, here’s some background: My mom is driving my grandma up who can’t drive to come see me after 2 years. I love my grandma to pieces and we have always been close. She is bringing her dog with. Her dog is small and very well trained. My mom wanted to bring her dog too. Her dog is large, old, and untrained. I love her dog as she is the last of our childhood pets and would love to see her. 
I have a large breed who is a year old and very hyper. She’s well trained but it all goes out the door when new people come over. I’ll have to start with her separated then have my grandma sit down so I can bring my dog out with treats in hopes she won’t jump on my grandma. My grandma really wants to meet my dog. I also have a 9 week old kitten and an old cat. My house isn’t huge. 4 people, 3 dogs, a cat, and a kitten in one space seems like a lot on all of us. 
I really just want to see my grandma. Her health is declining and spending time with her is the most important thing to me regarding this visit. 
My other grandma has 10+ boxes of stuff she wants to give us. My mom offered to bring them up for us because we haven’t been able to get the time off or the uhaul needed to pick them up. It’s about an hour 1/2 drive from where we live. I can’t drive from health complications right now. So that puts the pressure on my boyfriend. 
My mom not being able to come would mean I don’t get to see my grandma and my other grandma has to keep the boxes of stuff she wants to give me.
They are hoarders so it is important that they get stuff out of their house. 

The reason I’m posting the texts: I am LC with my mom because she seems to make herself the victim, gaslight, and subtly manipulate things to go her way. She also blames all childhood trauma on my dad and if I bring up anything she played a part in she hits me with the ‘I’m not perfect’. She’s constantly saying that tbh. I read the texts as slightly manipulative and victimizing. She constantly claims she has no one. When in reality, she has a whole community around her. She found someone within an hour to watch her dog for her. 
She also has a false peace, love, happiness, and hippie vibe. She makes that her whole personality until something doesn’t go her way. She can get mean and extremely emotional very easily. She is easily manipulated herself, so I believe she’s learned from the pros. She’s been involved with several nature and wellness cults that have cost her a lot, in many senses. She is also always ‘sick or injured’ she’s had every illness, disease, and immune disorder she can think of. Even if it only sticks for a week then she says she doesn’t have it. LC due to the rollercoaster of lies and pleas for sympathy. 

The question: Are her texts coming out how I am perceiving them or am I projecting from past experiences?

“I’m not perfect” help analyze LC mom