How can I help my husband?

My husband (27m) and I (27f) have been together for 6 years. He has been struggling lately with a lack of motivation and I suppose happiness in general. He hated his previous job and blamed a lot of his stress on it so I thought when he started his new job things would get better but that’s not the case.

He says he’s fine with his new job but just struggles in general. He hates the fact he has to go to work everyday and feels like it’s hopeless as we’re struggling to buy a house and keep bills paid. He feels like it doesn’t matter how hard he works, he’s not getting anywhere. He has a lot of deep seated anger toward the state of the world and blames the “system” on a lot of our struggles.

He’s admitted he knows there are projects and such that need to be done for our family but when he’s home on the weekend he has no motivation to do them. He feels like a failure of a husband and father and I think it’s feeding into a vicious cycle.

He has a really difficult time waking up in the morning and even has a hard time forcing himself to go into work so he will just call in sick. He says it doesn’t seem to matter how much sleep he gets, he never feels rested and relaxed.

I try to be supportive but I’m getting frustrated. Sometimes I feel like maybe he just doesn’t have a good work ethic and needs to try to shift his mindset. I want to help him but I just don’t know how. :(

Posted Nov 12, 2024, 8:14 PM UTC

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