Did my Dead bedroom make me a better man?

My dead bedroom triggered a journey of self-discovery and personal growth I never knew I needed. Playing online detective trying to solve my sexless marriage has taught me so much about life, love, sex. I've had to face myself in the mirror and assess where I was going. I've spent years overcoming perosnal insecurities,self-confidence and low self esteem. I've learned lots about the female perspective and sexuality,I've confronted my own shortcomings both inside and outside the bedroom and tried my best to improve them. I've learned so much about married life from so many other peoples reletionships. In a bid to rekindle the spark and recapture lightning in a bottle, it has caused me to work out at the gym, get a new degree, go for higher paying Jobs. It's made me houseproud and proactive even getting me into DIY. I've become a more attentive as a husband and father.ive learned to listen and appreciate my loved ones. It's humbled me as a person and made me less proud and vain.Ive become more patient and compassionate when dealing with other people. I've Learned alot about myself in and outside the bedroom. It's forced me to look and reflect on so many aspects of my relationship. How I conduct myself when living under one roof. I had to learn to control my emotions and frustrations and deal with past traumas. In a bid to be good enough to love and please my wife I had to grow to be something new. Trying to rekindle my love life has took me on a deeper journey and I believe the suffering and endless quest of self improvement has made me a better man, à kinder man and dare I say perhaps even a better lover. I'm not saying I have solved my dead bedroom. Far from it but where once I felt only bitter resentment frustration and despair, I now feel more confident in who I am, my sexuality, my relationship too has improved. I've learned to be less entitled, less demanding and judgmental.Our sex life is still a work in progress but both me and my wife are still together and really happy most of the time. We don't make love every day or every week or even every month but we do find time for love-making and when we do it now I would say the sex is better. I feel we have a deeper connection, trust and intimacy together. This is because today after working through things there is no longer the same anxiety or pressure hanging over us that we had early in the reletionship. My wife tells me what she wants me to do and we both take our time to take care of each other and just enjoy our bodies, the pleasure of touching and being naked and sharing the close connection which is what I always desperately craved. I wish I could get it to the point we're we made loved once a week or even once a month but I've noticed that the sex when it happens is much better than it was before. In some situations it might be a lost cause but I think a little self reflection and self improvement can make things better. I know my wife is not perfect and she has her hang up about sex which is difficult for me deal with and understand. But I've learned that I am not perfect either and If I stayed in a dead bedroom relationship for so long it's because deep down I know I'm damaged in some way too and healing just like her one day at a time. Mabye in this cynical sex obsessed world, this is God's way of teaching me some inner truths about the universe and the meaning of true love. My wife and I are still loving, learning and growing together. I hope this post gives some of you who are hurting out there some comfort and hope. You got this.