Liar liar, personality disorder on fire.

I’m mad but also amused. Laugh with me?

I got this text from my uBPD Mum on my birthday, which used to be a favourite move of hers every year on my birth minute.

For context, I have been NC since maybe 2015? My brother is over 30 and disabled and living in supported accommodation, she used to visit him but just faded out about 10 years ago. Our Dad has been our primary parent since 2006ish, so she used to contact him for visits. But my brother and Dad have had the same mobile numbers their entire lives, she has them, and I’ve periodically checked my brother’s phone over the years to see if she was trying to contact him. She has not. Dad also hasn’t heard from her. I’m also in regular contact with her parents who know where my brother lives, she’s never asked them where he lives either (he’s moved since she disappeared). I’m involved in my brother’s care too, she showed up in a huff after getting my brother’s address from the police and it’s been a mild shit show since. I have an old post about it if you want more info there.

Here’s the text:

Dear casualpants, please read all my message knowing it comes straight from my heart in spite of my faults I beg you to be heard. I just want to wish you a happy birthday and hope this message reaches you in good spirits. I have recently reunited with (my brother) and while it is going well for both of us I would love nothing more than to have both of my beautiful children back in my life. I beg you forgive me for whatever I did or you were told I did to make you withdraw from my world. Please believe me when I say I wish for your return every hour I'm awake and when I dream as well. (Brother) simply disappeared from my life about the same time you did and no amount of tracking down led me anywhere and no one attempted to contact me but believe me I tried everything I could think of. It took a lot of luck for my efforts in finding him to be rewarded most unexpectedly recently and I never want to lose him again. I have never given up on reuniting with you as well and never will to the day I die and I only recently learned you are in (different state) now so I can’t possibly be a nuisance or a burden on you from so far away. I desperately hope with all a mother's love that you can find a way of forgiving whatever has happened that I can't even remember as I have great trouble recalling a lot of things these days. I can't even remember whatever it was that I must have done wrong but thought everything was okay the last time we spoke. Please tell me what I can do to mend fences with you because I don't know what to do otherwise but will do anything I'm capable of to make things good between us. Even if you can't find a way of forgiveness, is it please possible we can communicate about (brother) but please keep your mind open to me as my heart is forever open to you and I’ve suffered from my children's absence for so many years now. Whatever doubts you may have I can explain everything if I am given the chance. My number is (number). Please contact me anytime I will be overjoyed to hear from you. Yours with undying love, hope to have you back and ever open arms. Mum

I won’t, but I desperately want to write back that she’s a liar. And a shit liar. Does she not think I was there? And if she can’t remember anything (maybe true, she’s got a history of alcohol abuse) then what does she think she’s explaining?? What methods does she allege she tried if calling the family wasn’t one of them? Does she not realise she’s being a nuisance now? Also is she just trying to get me on side because I’m applying for guardianship, and she’s told my brother’s carers that she wants to apply? Also lol because she’s asked a few times how you do it - you literally google the state and “guardianship” to find the form, which has all the instructions.

These are all useless questions because it’s just shitty words to try and get a reaction. But anyway, it’s kind of funny? But also sad and infuriating, but it feels like classic BPD.