Tired of my mother sticking in every now and then in my daily decisions

i am 18 (M) .... it has been a while that my parents have been too much controlling towards me

my mom doesn’t seem to respect my wishes and give me enough space even though I’ve been telling her to cut back for years.  It’s an issue with both parents, but moreso my mom going back to childhood.

Example 1 - The biggest issue: anytime she sees me chatting on my laptop she will pick up my phone take it to different room and start reading my chats... even tho i have not much to hide she always seems to be wanting know what and whom i am talking to ... she would later come to me and will point out any random conversation which was not related to any growth or learning and will ask me to cut out the person or talks i have with them....this is the reason i am not left or had any real friends from schl since i never had any social life...which to brief they never ever gave me a phone even till now (i have my grandfather's phn who told me he will be gifting me one of my choice whenever his property work will be done howver he died before tht and they just handed me over his 4yr old redmi phn for clg)

Example 2- every now and then whenever i raise any complaints to something she will just taunt me of not earning and they paying my fees and expenses to which i loose any say and get filled with guilt ...however now its been annoying that she will bring this up to anything and don't do the same with my elder brother

Recent Incident- just a while back my clg classmates asked me to come play valorant with them (i generally play for 2hrs a day which is limited by my mom) tht day i just happened to play for 2hrs 45 min (just one extra game with them) and she just burst out on me on call with my friends who happened to listen everything ... not only that she asked me to shift the desk to my parents room and told me tht i will not have my room for myslef anymore and now she stick behind my back watching and listening everything i do or say

there are so many other incidents tht i want to tell but will take my entire day writing abt them

my father who happens to be filled by my mother have no say on anything and just leaves it on my mother

to brief everything - my parents:

1). restricts me of any personal space
2). restricts my social life which i don't have any left
3). taunts me of them managing my expenses
4). watch me closely and take decisions for me

I think in the end, it’s frustrating because she wants me to be such a particular way but I’m not that way. I don’t feel like a failure or like “I let her down” or whatever but she desires a kid/someone to be such a particular person - I don’t fit that role and there’s no other kid to fit that role.

Overall, I love my parents, I really do have a good life when all is said & done but this is ridiculous. I know my mom (and dad) is this overbearing because she loves and cares about me but damn. I suck at addressing this - whenever I do, I kinda blow up/rant like I did in this post. I can tell it makes her feel self conscious and she feels shameful and hurt, so it hurts me too. But then she continues on with these habits just a few days/weeks/months later.

this same case was with my elder brother as well (which i understand now) but he has distanted himself for a while now living with iskcon people

Tldr : my (18m) parents seem to become more and more controlling everyday and I just wanna know if it's something parents do or is it just my parents.