AITAH for wanting to spend Christmas with my girlfriend's family instead of my family?

I (30m) have been dating my girlfriend (23f) for 11 months now, and things are getting pretty serious to the point I am already thinking of marriage with her.

We are from different ethnicities. I am a typical white Canadian and she is from an Indian family although she was born here in Canada.

My parents have no issues with that. It's a different story with my extended family, but I don't talk to them unless I am going back home (it's a small town up north). They tend to be very racist and ignorant, which is why I stay away from them.

Anyway, Christmas is coming up and I'd love to spend it with my girlfriend in Toronto. Her family is also Christian and they go all out to celebrate so I'd love to experience it with them.

Here is the issue; I've always spent Christmas with my parents in my hometown. I called my mom to tell her I won't make it back this year. She was very upset.

She told me I can do whatever I like but she is really hurt and my dad will also be upset. But she reassured that I can do whatever I want.

She then told me that I can bring my girlfriend along and she will make sure my girlfriend will have a seat at the table. The thing is, I have no desire to bring my girlfriend to meet my extended family, who have said nasty things about non-white Canadians.

So I said that's okay, I really want to stay with her family this year and we will be happier not dealing with racism, and my mom hanged up. My older brother texted me a couple hours later, saying "Girls come and go but parents and family can't be replaced."

I've also had other family members calling and texting to question why I made my parents upset and why I am breaking the family tradition for a girl.

So reddit, am I the asshole here? I want to spend this Christmas with my girlfriend and her family. I'd bring her to meet my parents soon, but not during Christmas when the extended family I don't like are around.