AITA for believing that cis women are the only real women

I’m sorry if this post offends. Actually, no, I’m not really sorry.. I think I want to be perceived as polite because my post may be offensive.

I (30F) am having a really hard time trying to make sense of the world. I don’t know if it’s because I just turned 30 but the last few months building up to it, I’ve just lost patience for everything I don’t believe in. I got into a really big argument with a friend, not close, maybe more of an acquaintance who asked ‘are cis women jealous of trans women’ to which I responded, “trans people are not women.” & I’m not sorry because what I’ll explain below is exactly what I said.

I cannot reconcile the biological or historical realities of womanhood with the shifts in reality today. Since the very beginning of mankind women have been everything from Eve that got mankind kicked out of heaven, which is ironic because God still gave women the ability to create in his likeness, to jezebelles that embody sin, witches who can’t just be wise or intelligent, to hysterical for having feelings to THE PROBLEM that men have to manage or manipulate. We fought for centuries to be recognized as equal and worthy while retaining our identity rooted in biology and the ability to create or procreate life. When we thought we were done fighting off patriarchy, men decided they can now just BE women? Erasing our distinctions, dismissing the sacredness of femininity and then gaslighting women (via compassion and empathy, the same feelings women were tranquilized into comas for) into accepting this redefining of womanhood without our consent. How the hell do we win? How can women defend our identity, history and progress if smoke is being blowed to cast doubt on what a woman even is? Before it was tranquilized feelings out of women to preserve ‘logic and sense’ now it’s prioritize feelings over fact? I mean, if I cut off my thumb because I don’t feel it belongs on my body then I’m sick in the head because it’s self mutilation and I need to be hospitalized. But if a man cuts a pole to build a hole he’s being true to himself? Safe spaces for women are not convoluted and my safety is secondary to a biological males feelings? How is that not 100 years ago all over again? I’m sorry, I can’t get behind it. I can’t understand why there isn’t objective truths anymore and I can’t accept it. Maybe I am an asshole, but if rather be a correct asshole than pander to whimsical fantasies that have no real bearing on reality. I feel like I’m losing my own mind being gaslit so much.