AITA for having a house meeting over my roommates bf?

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AITA for having a house meeting over my roommates bf?

I live in a shared apartment, and one of my roommates has a boyfriend who is over constantly. He’ll stay here anywhere from 3 to 7 nights a week, leave for a few days, and then come back again. The issue isn’t just how often he’s here—it’s how loud they are.

They have loud conversations late at night, laugh loudly, and, worst of all, their sex noises wake the rest of us up. It’s at a point where we can hear everything through the walls, and it’s impossible to get a good night’s sleep.

We’ve talked to her several times about how disruptive the noise is, and while she apologizes, nothing changes. It feels like we’ve hit a wall, and the noise has gotten ridiculous.

I suggested to the others in the apartment that we should have a group meeting to address this formally since casual conversations clearly aren’t working. They agreed, but now I’m second-guessing myself. Someone outside the situation told me I might be overreacting and should just deal with it because she’s allowed to have guests.

I’m torn. I don’t want to make things awkward or create tension, but at the same time, I feel like everyone should be able to live comfortably in a shared space. AITA for wanting to call a group meeting to address this? Should I just let it go?

Posted Jan 6, 2025, 4:42 AM UTC

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