Has anyone here ever fixed their problems?

My gf and I were dating for a little less than a year and a half. I do not have adhd and she does. We loved each other very much and I think still do, but she came over to break up with me today. We decided to instead take a two week break and reflect on how this would impact us.

We have butted heads a lot in our relationship, but we were always able to come to amicable terms or an agreement. Things improved for a while after I read a book on adhd relationships to try to understand her better. However, things that bothered me always crept back up. I always felt like i was picking up after herself, making sure she threw out expired food, trying to keep her on task with things she said she was going to get around to and never did. Honestly, it made me worry about the bigger problems in life. If we had a family and kids together, would she be willing to pick up their toys? Would she be able to?

Anyways I guess she answered that for me by breaking up with me tonight. I asked her to go on a break and talk to a therapist about it because it seemed like it was coming out of left field. But now that I’m in bed by myself and alone with my thoughts, I’m sitting here and wondering if this would even ever have worked or been possible. Are there any success stories here? How did you do it?