2 questions that are actually crazy making

1st is it possible with an addiction like this for your body to literally be on a timer? Like I’m talking wake you in the night to take care of business. My spouse wakes up around 4am like clockwork…then he’ll go have a bath or shower for an hour, lay in bed for an hour, and go back to sleep. He wakes for work at this time as well but he’s been out of work for over a month so I can’t see him being stuck on that schedule anymore. I’m about to take major issue with this for so many reasons but it literally feels like he’s intentionally waking up in the night to jerk off. He told me it was something he typically did before work…sometime around this time for over a year.

2nd wtf am I supposed to even say about him talking to his cousins. This is just like pushing a line but I KNOW he’s going to tell me I’m insane and he sure could make me look it if he wanted to. I don’t think he’s ever acted out to family members but he has always kept up conversations with random distant female cousins. Like creepy older vibes except he’s not that old and he’s not ugly so I’m sure they don’t see it that way…yet at least. He’s complimented them in the past in what strikes me as odd fucking ways, sliding up on their Snapchat posts like he would any other girl, and the conversations are innocent but it just feels like seeking female attention, pushing the line bc I have his accounts and he can’t talk to anyone else. That said he would’ve had these conversations whether I had the accounts or not. Do I just ignore it because it IS a reach anyways and nothings actually happening? Or do I say something and deal with being told I’m so crazy.