Feeling unwanted and un attractive to partner.

I will start off by saying this is something I am working on in therapy. Sadly therapy is an hr a week and never feels like enough time.

I don’t feel attractive to my partner I feel unwanted and at times like a roommate. I also struggle in life with feeling validated by my job, family or others. I believe there is a lot at play some of which I don’t understand and try to be sympathetic and understanding of. I never pressure and try to help out as much as I can. She is pre menopausal. I believe she feels insecure due to weight gain to me it’s nothing and I try to express that. This is not just about my want for sex but for intimacy and connection.

I have grown up as a care taker and spent my entire life taking care of others. Now I feel burnt out , overwhelmed and like I have no value.

How do I change this mindset?