AI(20f)TAH for not wanting to be called a bitch/dramatic?

My (20f) bf (25m) calls me a bitch or calls me dramatic any time I bring up something that stresses me out a LOT, not just any time im stressed. I “complain” (let him know) about something that really stresses me out and he says I am “bitching.” Then he says, “how can you expect me to listen to you when you’re bitching? it’s not just ‘women’ (I accused him of being sexist) “i just don’t want to hear you yap and bitch!” my dad died 3 years ago, most of my trauma is related to that, that I don’t want to hear loud yelling when he’s on the phone, or have anything mentioned about me and my dad. one of his friends got in a fight about them, and said in a group chat, “doesn’t his girlfriend have a retarded lisp? and ain’t her dad dead?” I have a cleft lip and have spent 7 years in speech therapy so that really hurt me, my bf doesn’t understand that so im “bitching” if I ever bring it up if he’s talking to that friend or tryna bring him to MY house (I pay 100% of rent) Am I a dramatic bitch or suffering verbal abuse because atp my brain is broke and I can’t even handle tryna think about it