Told „what you are feeling is wrong“

Hey there 👋

yesterday I talked to a coworker and I told him about a situation where he said something to the group that made me look bad. I said that I find it disrespectful. He did understand and said he did not mean it and his intention was different from what I interpreted.

Okay, but - and this is what happens to me regularly - He said that in his opinion it wasn’t disrespectful at all and that I am wrong to think about it like that.

For me this is a major red flag. Other people telling me how to feel and what to think about stuff… if I have been insulted/disrespected/invalidated or not. If I should be angry/sad or not.

Does this happen to you often? What do you do?

Do you think this is because we are HSP? Or is this just toxic people?

Thanks for sharing your opinions!