Liking a certain fantasy doesn't mean you want it in real life.

I came across a short on YouTube from an author asking herself (in the manner of shorts) if she wants a man like the dominant "alpha male" type in her latest book. She asks if this take charge guy is going to do the dishes or learn to clean the bathroom properly, and says at the end she wants her floof made for love and not the fantasy dude she writes about.

I think this is the big gap in understanding for tge anti-ship/ pro-censorship mindset.

A lot of anti discourse just doesn't take into account the idea that writers- and even most readers- don't actually want to live through the things that happen in their favorite stories. This makes obvious sense for dystopian plots and whump, but also for romance and even NSFW scenes! Outside of reader insert stories I think a lot of us don't imagine ourselves being part of the narrative at all.

We want to explore the human condition, or watch two hot characters bang, but we probably would want to leave the room if we found ourselves magically transported into the story. The supermodel blorbo from my shows is nice to drool over, but I prefer the goofball that likes to dip oreos in melted chocolate or help us bake something ambitious with our kid as a special treat.