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AmieNav96

Irritated that my fiance is so involved with his gal bf problems

Now how much is he involved idk. I feel slightly irrated with it. I have brought it up to him and he was upset at first because I'd held it in and not told him immediately.

  1. Such as when he said we'd pick her up for a friend get together. 2) we'd take her home after a party. All he hadn't discussed with me.

Now back story: him and his gal friends have known each other for 5yrs. She recently had a very bad break up so all the friends which are 2 other males aged 24m and 47m. She told us it had been abusive this whole time. So all of them Have been there for her. I haven't seen anything crazy either. Like no late night meet ups. No weird excuses to leave for the night. I did test it out one time. Because all his friends were going to the movies. My fiance said he wanted to do it kater for his gal pal because shed be getting out late. And most likely going alone with all the other friends. I said oh I had plans with my sister's so I probably can't go. I said but since she's going by herself maybe you can go together to keep each company??

He went quiet and said oh well why would I do that?? We always go together? If anything she might not even go. It's really up in the air. So idk if he caught on or not. Or wondering where I was going lol. I just checking if he'd say yes and go anyways... idk still felt fishy . Hes not a stupid man.

My fiance does travel for work between stores and so does she. But she's usually off during the week days. They also do a group call with the other 2 friends and occ will be on the phone alone.

They do text but I don't see anything crazy on there. (I've checked). I've talked to her too. So she's a nice girl. I just think he gets to involved with his friends man or woman.

When I called him out on it he grew upset and said how come you didn't tell me you were upset about the movie thing or us taking her home?? Instead you wait?? And of course I do feel at fault I should have opened my mouth but I didn't want to seem toxic. I said i always put you first and in angry he said don't then. I care for my friends like you care for your family. (Side note he is not close to his family period. They have done nothing but betray him. That why he treats his friends like brothers and sisters.) I myself don't have guy friends or friends. So all I know is my family.

Anyways after our argument we chilled down. He said I never want you doubt to our relationship. Anytime I talk to anyone of my friends its about you. I love you. You wouldn't be here in my home if I didn't want you here. - his words. Which again is true. His mama tells me he'd never had a woman actually live with him before. Let alone have a year long relationship either. Or ask to marry. He even said he'd show all his friends the ring including his gal pal who was super excited for him.

His actions haven't changed. He posts me on his insta/Facebook. He's updated his account on Instagram to include a reel story of just me. He texts me when hes out of work.

But I feel now that's she's single it changes things. Idk maybe I'm just over reacting????i have in the past over reacted about his boss who i thought was getting a little to close. She was talking about her personal business with him,etc. I told him he needed to figure out what boundaries are because he isn't single anymore to be talking to any woman about their personal issues.

So what do yall think?? Am I too much??

Posted Mar 7, 2025, 9:45 PM UTC

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