Am I not doing enough in my daily life?

So I work in the military and have a pretty much full time job. I work 3 days on, 2 days off, 2 days on, 3 days off, 12 hour shifts. I cook all the meals in our house. I enjoy it, I’m good at it, and tbh it’s just always been my thing. I refuse to do laundry. I clean rarely but if asked I won’t say no. We just had a kid together, I don’t really help/manage them but I do change diapers, I’ll bathe her when asked. I don’t feed her or really much else but, I basically will help if asked. But my wife is a stay at home mom. She has been for 6 years. So I have pretty much given baby duties to her. But again, if asked i can and will help. I also play video games and enjoy drinking. Keep in mind i don’t do them unless the baby is sleeping or I have free time. My wife though has been annoyed with me sleeping in cause on my off days I have been known to sleep in and she says I do not help with the baby enough. She insist that I do not help and she doesn’t have free time To herself. Which I understand what she means. Cause she’s a mom 24/7. Also she does not have hobbies, she refuses to be away from the baby, and she can’t get good sleep when the baby is sleeping cause of anxiety. Basically what am I not doing enough. Thank you for reading.