INTJ - INTJ friendship/relationship

Have you ever been emotionally affected by the anaffective and unempathetic behavior of an INTJ friend/partner like you? What did you think then? Did it help you understand/feel how you are perceived from the outside?

I tried it with both a friend and girlfriend, I must say it's very emotionally dry from the outside, but at the same time I found it enlightening because I know what's behind that rind. It's the same thing that's inside of me (probably stemming from a mixture of stressed out child Fi and a Fe in the seventh place).

The question it raised in me that I haven't found an answer to is : does knowing that you are egosyntonic internally equate to being perceived as anaffective externally?