Sharing/withholding Information

So, my mom (63F) was diagnosed with an adenocarcinoma slightly differentiated in mid September 2024 and did the Whipple end of September. My mom hasn’t been one to handle any of the bad news very well. She becomes withdrawn and her mood becomes low every time we hear any bad news which is understandable. She’s been on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds since the doctor shared with her in November that she had metastases in her left femoral hip (we did radiation for that).

Recently we found out she has liver mets and the consensus between the doctor and my father has been to withhold that information from her because they’re worried about her mental state. I’m not sure if that’s the right way to go. I just want to hear some advice from people who’ve actually been through this.

Thank you so much 🙏