I 25f don’t know what to do about my 31m bf anymore. Any advice?

Hi, i’m 25f and my bf is 31m. we’ve been having issues lately and idk if it’s bc im overreacting or if is because he does not like me putting my foot down. There are multiple different instances ill list below.

For example, he’s very “controlling” in a way? He will try to wake me up at 5-6am on the weekends bc that’s his “sleeping in” and tell me to get up and get ready for the day. i enjoy my sleep and want to be left alone. I work 40+ hours a week, im in school full time, i take care of majority of the chores in the house, and i also help him raise his 8 year old son. i’ll tell him to stop and he’ll turn on the lights and keep trying to wake me up until i’m awake. he either does that, or he tries to hump me awake and i HATE IT. he does it every weekend without missing a beat no matter how many times or how nicely i ask him to stop. so now im pretty ugly about it. Anytime i’m sitting or relaxing - he tries to make me feel bad about it and say “are you just gonna sit there all day?” “hurry up and get ready” and he’ll try to herd me into the bathroom like a fucking sheep. while i get ready, he’ll huff and puff and say i’m taking too long and to hurry up. this is ALL. THE. TIME. and i absolutely can’t stand it. he does the same when im driving, he gets pissed off im not driving faster, im not doing this, im not doing that, or he’s complaining about other people and im like STOP. we’ll be at a fast food restaurant and someone is taking a bit long to order and he’ll say “these fucking fat asses ordering the whole god damn menu i fucking hate people i hope they all die” and im like STOP.

Another example, we used to have sex all the time when we first started dating. i had a miscarriage eventually and got diagnosed with endometriosis, adenmysosis, severe anxiety and depression, etc. im on medication for all of this including anti depressants so my sex drive is low ontop of that sex can be painful sometimes. even so, he still gets a nut off at least once a week. even when i had surgery and couldn’t have sex i was still giving him head often. because of my medical conditions, i bleed 24/7 everyday. he doesn’t like having sex when im bleeding so ill just give him head. i was doing this like every other day with nothing in return. now that i finally stopped bleeding, at night time he gets ontop of me, sticks it in, humps me, nuts, goes to sleep. i get nothing. i’m tired of feeling like a cum doll so i just stopped letting him and i told him as much. he said that if he wasn’t so tired he’d do more and that’s why he tries to in the morning. i’m like …. we have all day on the weekends and those are the only times we can have sex? ok. i don’t even argue bc im just so over it. i don’t understand why 5am has to be the time we have sex when im exhausted and just want to sleep.

another example of these tantrums is at dinner time. there’s literally been a time a few months ago i made dinner, set the table for everyone, and started eating and he threw a FIT bc his food was too hot and he had to wait to eat it. i literally almost threw the mf plate in the freezer bc who tf complains bc their food is too hot? its worse than our 7 year old.

how do i make him stop this shit. do we need therapy? is it something that i can’t change? any advice?

I’ve tried to explain nicely how i dont like any of this, but he doesn’t get it so now i act ugly about it. i dont say sorry and try to suck up to him anymore, i just let him throw his tantrums and i dont engage. i just dont know what to do atp.