AIO about a "joke" my boyfriend made

last night my boyfriend showed me a photo from his dads facebook of his dad (married) at a bar, taking a photo with like 3 or 4 women. i don't know if they were strippers or just dressed like that, but either way. not the point.

i didn't really think it was funny and just remember being like "eww what is he doing." to which my boyfriend responded "i cant wait to do this to you when we're older." i immediately told him i didn't think that was funny and to me it feels like cheating (i have no desire to take pictures with a group of attractive men/male strippers/whatever the equivalent is) and we HAVE spoken about this in the past and BOTH OF US have established that we think it's disrespectful behavior. instead of apologizing he just tried laughing and deflecting and making jokes? i don't know why but i just feel hurt and don't understand why he has a desire to take a picture like that when we're that age.

a couple nights ago we went to his parents house for dinner and his dad made a joke about how he couldn't afford a girlfriend anymore because of his wife (my boyfriend's mother). they all laughed, so of course i can tell this is humorous for them. which is fine. but i grew up with the most unloving, abusive parents on the planet, and to me these jokes aren't jokes. they're just disrespectful. for some reason i feel a pit in my stomach and i just can't tell if i'm being dramatic.

part of me also feels like i lost a little trust in him because now it's like, what else have you been joking about/talking about behind my back? maybe that part is too dramatic. it just hurts that he did a 180 and went from "yeah going to bars and taking pictures with big groups of (strippers/super attractive women/whatever the case may be) that i have 0 relations to/going to strip clubs is cheating" to "haha i can't wait to do that when i'm older" like what?

before anyone asks:

1. yes we have talked about this before and established how we BOTH think it wouldn't be respectful to each other

2. yes i did tell him it hurt my feelings and it was not funny and he just deflected and started trying to joke around to lighten the mood

3. BEFORE ANYONE SAYS "i don't think that's cheating" it's about the fact that my boyfriend and i have already established with each other that we consider it cheating.