How to drive more effectively at night?

(I passed in December so I'm still very new to this driving thing haha)

I feel like the lights from opposite side of the road are really blinding. I've been driving like a granny because I don't know when it's gonna bend (only doing this route like twice) and I'm pretty sure I've been annoying everyone on the road (sorry). How do I get better at this? What do people look at to see what's going on, keep their speed, and not being blinded by the lights from the opposite side. My instructor told me to look at the road surface instead of the lights but it means I can't look and plan ahead. Hope this makes sense and TIA

(Also any tips to drive better and be less anxious on the road would be grand)