Ignored by real Brothers.

Me (27) and my brothers lets call younger brother YB (21) and my older brother OB (30).

Around mid January I was on leave in the city where my brothers stay (they stay together with my dad). I was there with my girlfriend of the time (we got engaged this will come later). Just to clarify I stay about 1500km from my brothers a 14 hour drive (This information is relevant). Me and my girlfriend went on holiday to also see them.

(Just some context me and my older brother has always had conflict I have tried to make a relationship with him but yeah)

Evening comes when me and my girl meet up with my brothers. My older brother doesn't greet me when I see him my younger one did. Between my older brother his girlfriend and my younger brother they order 20$ in just drinks me and my girls drinks were 3$ just a coke not some fancy cocktail.

Around the table the drinks came and the first thing my older brother says is "so how is it going with the stupid house you baught idiot". I responded with "look this is not the place to come attack me immediatly lets have respect for each other and talk and enjoy the evening. He kinda shrugged it off and said "You know what "I jumped in and said "No you know what I am respectful to you and you just want to be an asshole. Your'e the one who doesn't want a relationship with me" (He ignored me and walked past me without greeting me for years while living together even said some awful things about my girlfriend when we started dating for context)

My older brother stood up and left the table then my younger brother stood up yelled at me "You know what my "older brother" did so much effort to be here today". Which I dont undestand he drove 4km to be there I drove 1500km paid for accommodation and everything. I ended up paying for all the drinks also.

31st of January I got engaged with my fiancé. I told my mother about the good news and she told my grandfather. My grandfather then proceed to call my older brother congratulating him as my mother mentioned "Your first grandson is engaged" and he is the oldest. My older brother then called my mother on what's going on. My mother then informed my older brother that I am engaged.

Now as off today 5/6 weeks later my older brother has not even congratulated me. I called my younger brother a couple times (he ignores my phone calls while the phone says "busy on another call"). My younger brother went with my brother as he buys him motorbikes. My mother went from speaking to me to from telling me on the phone that she had to go and I haven't heard from her.

Don't get me wrong I'm so grateful that I have an amazing fiancé and that she said yes but I kinda wanted to share it with family and some close people but after a long time I kinda had to realise blood is not family, you choose your family. Family is the people who are there even when it's hard.

It was kinda hard seeing my fiancé telling her family and how happy she is knowing that I won't get that congratulations. My couple friends did though (I see my friends more then brothers then I do my real ones)

Feel free to ask for more context if I'm not explaining well or missed something.