Reconnection rituals with non-nesting partners?

I see my GF about 4-5 days a week, including Wednesday and Saturday overnights. As long as our routine is kept intact, our connection is good. However, between careers, family, and other responsibilities, that routine gets disrupted frequently.

I've noticed that after a disruption to the routine, I'm often excited to see her and I assume she will also be excited. I come in with playful and flirty energy. However, she feels disconnected and needs something more patient and grounding. This mismatch tends to throw us off because my flirty advances are rejected and her need for connection is not met (at first). We always work through it, but it's become a clear enough pattern that I'm seeking some input.

What are some reconnection strategies, routines, or rituals you have with partners that help you both align on energy, needs and expectations? I'm especially interested in long term poly relationships because of how informal and ritualized those interactions can become. Thanks!