Wife is controlling and don’t know what else to do

Been married for 3 years. Wife and I have been having problems. She’s exhibited controlling behavior and at a loss to what to do.

1. Isolates me from others. Any time I want to have family over it’s a guaranteed fight. It will always be something ancillary, like we don’t have enough chairs (yes that was an actual reason once). Want to hang out with friends guaranteed fight.

2. I eat, drink, wear what she wants. It’s all under the guise of “helping me” but if I don’t like any of those it’s a fight. Don’t want to wear the pants she lays out? Fight. Her reason is always she’s just helping, but it’s irritating.

3. Was told compromise isn’t a real thing and doesn’t work in marriage, she told me compromise isn’t a “lose lose” so we should just pick who “gets to win” which is usually her. I want the AC on 71? She doesn’t want to use AC because it’s “not natural” for the body? Three days of fighting so I can set it at 80. Three more days of fighting? It can be set at 79.

4. Sex is dead. Don’t want to sound selfish or like a jerk but it’s a thing that people usually like in marriage.

If she would just admit she had a problem, I could work with it and take it to therapy. But three years of fighting and I can’t get her to admit she has a problem. I’m at a loss of what to do. I don’t see how therapy is an option if she won’t even admit it’s a problem.