Hobbies and dates- how do you balance these?

Asking guys in long term relationships- If your partner resents you going out with the guys / fishing /whatever you do, do you also take them out on dates as regularly as you go out for your special time off? I'm piggy backing off the other post where the wife says her husband appreciates that she "allows" him to go out and do his thing. My (now ex) would go out all day up until 9pm the entire weekend, and sometimes during the week too. I was chill for about a year because sometimes I'd tag along and was always able to (that's how I knew he wasn't cheating), but I was just sitting there, it was not a participatory kind of tagging along. And he never took me out. Didn't plan dates. If he stayed home it was to sit on the couch.

Is this normal? Or rather, what version of this balance do you have with your long term partner? I'm trying to re-balance my expectations because I'll never put up with that again, but I don't want to be unreasonable either.