AITAH For expecting my boyfriend to clean up after himself ?

For context, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years in the first year of us dating he lost his job and had to take an apprenticeship to become a mechanic which subsequently led to a significant drop in his salary and him losing his apartment he shared with his brother, during this time I asked my mother if he could move in with us she agreed if he paid boarding. He has lived with us for 2 years now and we’ve gotten into multiple fights about him cleaning up after himself (cleaning his bedside table, taking his plates or coffee cups to the kitchen, even bringing his lunch tin in to wash it so I can pack lunch). I’ve reached a breaking point usually I had just gotten frustrated and ending up doing it myself but I told him I’m done doing it if he doesn’t and he told me that I am selfish because he works from 5am to 6pm everyday and I (a freelance photographer) am home most days and should be able to do these things for him. I don’t feel like It should be my responsibility to clean up his mess solely because I don’t work the hours he does

He has neglected parts of our relationship and when I bring this up I am being selfish for this too

Am I the asshole for expecting him to clean up after himself or actually anything at all because of his work situation ?