Is being a mom just feeling guilty 24/7?

So the longer I’m a mom (I have a 4 month old) the more I realize how many things we aren’t suppose to do and how impossible this is. They don’t fall asleep easy? It’s cuz we didn’t do wake windows right. Crying from hunger? Missed their hunger cues. Need them to be in their bouncer while you pump? Bad for them to be in containers. Finally get them to sleep? Laying on the same side as always, giving them a flag spot. Taking a walk to get outside? Bad because he’s stuck in his car seat giving him more of a flat spot. Try to do tummy time? Cries the whole time. Go for a drive to finally get him to sleep instead of screaming? Bad for him to sleep in car seat. Comfort baby and try to do contact naps? Great until he hates them now and screams for 15 minutes until he sleeps no matter how I try to get him down. Try to feed him? He’s too distracted and yanks away from the bottle every two sips. Seems like anything we try to do is the wrong thing to do. Thanks for listening to my rant.