Terminology help please!

Hi lovely people! Asking for some advice/thoughts/guidance from any generous kinksters here about terminology and taxonomy for partner seeking.

I’m having trouble zeroing in on what terms and language to use to describe what kind of Domme/Top dynamic I’m looking for.

Essentially, I’m seeking a Domme or Switch for a FLR. However, I’m seeking someone who a) enjoys gentle/nurturing topping, b) gains pleasure from interpersonal control and leading, and c) enjoys ‘lending’ their submissive out for breeding.

I am an experienced kinkster (15 years in BDSM, used to be involved in the community, went to munches and public dungeons etc) and I have no idea how to word any of that into a coherent sentence. For context: I’m very experienced in kink as a Dominant, mostly identify as a Dominant, but have a very specific desire for an ownership dynamic as the owned party.

Every time I start writing a personal ad out it starts to sound more like a bad smut regurgitation than an actual attempt to find a compatible partner. And like yeah, sure, I’m not daft to the idea that I need to vocalize my likes and preferences, but the lack of suitable taxonomic catch-alls makes it feel very… I don’t know. Porn-y? Like I’m vocalizing a fantasy rather than looking for compatibility?

Anyhow, any kind of advice or help on how to phrase what I’m looking for would be very much appreciated!