Anyone else’s BPD parent refuse to do them a favor unless it’s some type of exchange??

I have countless examples of this but my most recent one just happened today.

I am going away for an extended weekend and asked BPD mom if she could swing by my house and feed my cats. Mind you I only live a few blocks over from her.

She informs me that she doesn’t know if she can do the full weekend maybe only one or two days. My mother who only works part time and never on weekends….has to check her schedule.

I immediately start looking for backup and find a recommended pet sitter so I book them quickly for peace of mind.

I let mom know she no longer has to feed them bc I’ve booked someone but if she could just pop in at her leisure to give them some attention I would greatly appreciate it.

Now shes mad that I’m paying someone else to feed the cats instead of her. When I explained that she told me she wasn’t sure if she could do all the days so I had to look elsewhere, she retorted back that if she had known it was a paying gig she would have made it work.

I’m disgusted. Why do I have to PAY you to help me out?

She ALWAYS keeps score and counts favors. Whenever I call her out on just straight up helping me (her child) with nothing in return she is quick to dismiss me saying I’m not a little kid anymore and there is no free lunch.

Am I crazy or is there a degree to which you SHOULD be able to count on family?