How Do You Handle a Parent Who Provides Everything but Feels Emotionally Unavailable?

[23M] My mom had a rough childhood, and I think it shaped how she sees the world and interacts with me. She supports me financially in every way makes sure I have everything I need (even pays my rent) but emotionally, it’s a different story. She can be aggressive and judgmental at times, and because of that, I feel like I can’t open up to her about anything personal. Whenever I try, it either turns into an argument or she dismisses what I’m saying.

Because of this, I’ve started outsourcing emotional support elsewhere, whether through friends or other outlets. It sucks because I wish I could just talk to my own mom, but I always feel like I have to be guarded around her. At the same time, I know she cares in her own way, and I don’t want to seem ungrateful for everything she’s done for me.

Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you navigate a relationship like this without completely shutting down?