Never thought I’d be a male fleeing abuse…

Long story short, married for a little over a year. I’ve known her for 15 total. We’re foster parents (yeah, we’re crazy), and both work full-time jobs.

Typical arguments the first few months, we could come to a compromise and move forward. Money got tight after a whole lotta car repairs, she started accusing me of not being present (I work from home and have no hobbies).

A few weeks ago things took a turn. In arguments she would begin threatening self-harm, Screaming random obscenities about how she does it all, I would even fall down at her feet almost like submitting like “Tell me what you want?” She would storm off to our room and I would sleep in my office. The next day… like it never happened.

I’m in a tight spot. My therapist told me I needed to start a plan but I’m so confused where to start. She’s well known and loved, everyone thinks she’s an angel. She has all access to funds. Even my physical cards. Just lost…