Hospital Visit

It’s easy to think that most people are in dead bedrooms or at least sex is commonly infrequent in most couple situations but occasionally we get hit with an insight that other regular couples have regular sex!

Recently my partner f 50 went into hospital with pains. I was in the room. The doctor asked if she could be pregnant and she said no and she asked if she was sure!! This happened twice! It was a definitive no and a smirk of disbelief from me! The doctors kept saying things like it’s not unusual!!! But in my head I’m going it’s fucking impossible!!!

At one point another nurse asked her what birth control she was on and she said none. She then almost in a curious or scolding way asked why was she not on birth control like it was irresponsible. This really hurt me! It was a realisation that others have sex and that dead beds are not normal.

I felt sad and disconnected. Yes I know all about menopause but this is not new it’s gone on for at least 10 years!!

Sometimes you get a reminder from the outside world that intimacy between couples is normal and that hurts😞