Am I looking at this wrong?

To preface I live in the west which heavily influences what everyone thinks my priorities are. I try my hardest to stay true to Islam ( traditionally) but lately I’ve been knocked back for my outlook.

I’ve started to open my door for marriage. I’m 19. Already off the bat everyone around me tells me I’m too young. Frankly idk what else I should be waiting for which makes me scared that I’m missing something.

Everyone tells me I need a job, a degree, ambition all these things that are very normal around me that I feel ashamed for not wanting.

I just want to be a stay at home wife that takes care of my family and I’m ready to do that now.

Am I setting myself up for failure by ( there words) “ rushing into things”

I’ve been told from every direction I need to work on myself more, build myself up more (career wise) and all these other things that will take years to achieve when I know that when I get married won’t be of any use to me.

I just don’t like doing things that will amount to nothing. Am I going about this wrong? Am I just being lazy? I was told today by my closest friend that I need to stop being so religious, that I’m taking Islam too seriously, that I need to branch out and “ live my life” I want to live my life based on Islam. Is my mindset on this matter correct then? I really don’t know how to think about this or who to go to. Everyone thinks so differently and the type of men I want are rare ( pious men who have gheerah and want me to focus on the home and family) in the west. Most are so open minded and “ chill” with everything. Makes me feel like a lame grandma.

Thank you for reading this, may Allah guide and protect us all.