Minimizing my health.

My mom does this thing that whenever I don’t feel well or I’m experiencing something with my health she minimizes it. Doesn’t ask how I’m doing or follow ups. Just makes it about herself or others but never about me.

Recently I fainted and have a cardiologist appointment since I also experience heart palpitations. I was telling her how I’m going to get a zio and echo but that I suspect I might have POTS. For once she seemed interested in what I was saying so I started talking about it thinking she was interested in my wellbeing for once when she suddenly asks if getting dizzy when you stand is a symptom and I said it could be and then she does it. She tells me her husband experiences that. He just needs to pass out. And didn’t ask anymore questions. I just dropped it. When I told her I passed out she wasn’t very concerned either. For all I know it could be a heart issue! Conversation didn’t even last 5 minutes.

I’ve been struggling with my sleep a lot lately too and I was telling her about it and she just kept saying that’s me. That’s me right now. And fair but not one question about me. I just dropped it too.

It feels like I have to be firm just be listened to but then I’m aggressive. She then wonders why I don’t share anything with her.