I have to break NC. Boooo.

So, first some positives. I got legal guardianship over my brother! He's an adult with a disability and lives in supported accomodation. Our uBPD Mum ghosted him 5+ years ago and I ghosted her 10+ years ago. Our Dad also sucks, but at least he knows when to take you to the doctor, can hold a job, isn't an alcoholic and can sometimes think about people that aren't himself.

The negatives. Turd Mum has shown up again waifing that her "son had been hidden from her". He hadn't. But whatever. So his accomodation service says he has services and supported hours and thrives on routine. Come on the weekend between these hours, you're more than welcome. She almost immediately starts dropping him off hours late so he's missing supported hours and yelling at staff that "YOU'RE CUTTING INTO MY TIME WITH HIM" and doing weird shit like forcing him to make eye contact, bringing her latest dropkick (probably) boyfriend and hugging his housemate (who also has a disability and is *not a hugger*, like there's nothing visually about this person that is inviting a hug). So after visits start, I get guardianship orders finalised and I can make access orders which we're developing now. But. His service providers have said it's my responsibility to communicate these things to her, not them. Which is fair enough but I just don't want to open that door.

I predict that:
- whatever rules lead to contacting me, will be immediately broken and used to get attention. e.g. If you're going to drop himback late then you need to let me know = multiple catastrophies that will require phone calls.

- a flood of contact that's not actually related to questions to do with my brother, but promises of "I'm getting to it!"

- nonsense. Just nonsense. I'm exhausted just thinking about the circular rants again.

- lies. Constant, bad and time wasting lies: "but the service said!", "but my lawyer said!" etc.

- shitty stupid lies about why nothing is her fault ever.

Anyway. I'm trying to nail down exactly what his service expects from me, and then find mediation services or something that isn't unaffordable to set up boundaries around contact. Maybe a dedicated email? Maybe a coparenting app? Maybe a second phone that I only have on during visits and then the dedicated email for scheduling requests? I dunno. But RIP my nervous system.

Thoughts and prayers accepted.