Any advice on how to help my thoughts

Hello everyone, I sure I'm here over reacting but it's just frustrating to me and I would like some advice.

My spouse is a couple of years into their new career. With that comes lots of new coworkers and friends. A majority are single, well I should say a majority of the ones that are now the regular friend group.

It seems they talk about tops often such as- hookups and how attractive the people are that said friends are currently talking to. Always talking about how many people they're talking to on Hinge. Or how many people they are playing and leading on and just stuff toxic single people do. The same ones who won't tell people they like them but then will stalk them and have all their co workers give hints at times like we're in middle school (by the way early 30s couple of 10+ years here). Obviously my spouse has no way to talk about that stuff so they talk about their displeasure with me.

So it's just frustrating that's who my spouse has chosen (maybe not much choice I allege) to be friends with and how they talk.

We've always had each others phone passwords. Now theirs has changed, they've went to being on their phone all day and night and then project at me that I am the one always on my phone- however I use my phone for work all day and still have half the screen time. So we have an iPad, it's signed in on my partner's account and so much stuff is locked on it now with a passcode and it's just like what is needed to be hidden now. It's just very odd and frustrating.

Am I wrong to be upset and frustrated?

Tl;dr:

My spouse has single friends that I think the way the talk crosses the line regarding our relationship.