psychiatrist said it’s “just my personality” and not a mental health condition—now I feel completely lost. What does that even mean?

I had a psychiatric appointment recently and something was said that’s been playing on my mind ever since. The psychiatrist told me they think what I’m going through is “my personality” and not a mental health condition—and I honestly don’t know how to take that.

I left the appointment feeling confused, dismissed, and kind of hopeless. Here are some of the things I’m struggling with: • Intense emotional shifts (like flipping between totally different moods or “versions” of myself) • Dissociation and not remembering breakdowns • Self-harming when overwhelmed or angry • Hearing voices or internal dialogues that don’t feel like “me” • Acting impulsively (especially with money or decisions) and regretting it after • Feeling like I’m ruining relationships and pushing people away even though I don’t want to

To me, these all feel like serious mental health symptoms—not just “who I am.” But after that appointment, I can’t stop thinking: Is this really just my personality? Am I just broken as a person? Is there nothing that can help me?

I was told I’ll get a face-to-face appointment in 2–3 months, but part of me worries they won’t follow through. I also don’t understand why, if it’s just my personality, I’m being offered medication (a mood stabiliser) or further appointments.

Has anyone else ever been told something like this? I just want to understand what’s happening to me and what kind of help is actually available.

If you’ve been through something similar or have any advice, I’d really appreciate it. I feel really lost and alone right now.