RWS - I don't currently read with reversals.

Recently I've been putting a lot of thought into my role in romantic relationships (I've been doing A LOT of introspection lately in general, but still, I give my love life the floor often).

I decided to ask about my biggest flaw - because I want to improve as a lover, and improve my happiness.

Here were the questions, in order:
1. What is my biggest flaw in romantic relationships? (3 of Swords)
2. How can I improve on that? / What advice do you have to overcome this? (Death) 
3. What is my greatest strength in romantic relationships? (Ten of Cups)

(I asked about my greatest strength because I thought it might create more of a bigger picture for me when deciding what needs to change or perhaps tell me what I should be prioritizing instead.)

I think it could be telling me that I sacrifice too much and it causes me grief. The thing that confused me was Death. At first, I was caught up because hahaha I asked for advice on how to change and got the card that heavily represents change!! It didn't feel very guiding lmfao. But then I thought.. maybe it feels like I already know how or that it's very in my face. It might be saying "hey, get real, you don't need to ask me that - go change." But maybe other people have different ideas! I read online that 3 of Swords + Death can represent actual death (I like to poke around online to decide if seeking second opinions here is even necessary) and so, I thought? Maybe they're being horrible (brutally honest) and saying this quality is part of my core and change won't come until I'm dead. Over my dead body! But that feels absurd, change is always possible. Ten of Cups might represent optimism. I put my all into a dynamic, true in my intentions? 

Curious to hear what other people's thoughts are on this! Thanks! 

What would you say is my biggest flaw in love? (+ how would you read "Death"?)