My brother is not coming to my wedding because he can’t find parking arrangements

I made a post earlier this year about my brother critisizing my future wedding’s every aspect. He did not like the location nor the choice of venue nor the way we will conduct our small courthouse ceremony nor the planned cocktail afterwards. He started being difficult about every aspect of the wedding since the moment I told him I’m getting married.

Today we had another argument and I guess this was the last straw. You can see my previous post for more details but long story short he and several relatives will have to drive ~2ish hours to attend the wedding because we live in another city where all our friends are. There will be a courthouse ceremony and a cocktail at another location afterwards. Everyone will commute from different parts of the city or in the case of some relatives from another town. There is one relative flying in from abroad. Of all 60 guests no one asked anything about parking arrangements. A couple of people asked for help with hotel acommodation and we provided. Most said they’ll handle it themselves and not to worry about it.

That is, no one but my brother. He started asking from day one - what will be the venue? What will be the food? Will I arrange a hotel for them? Will the hotel have free parking? Will there be parking provided for the ceremony? Will there be parking provided for the cocktail? Why is the cocktail a day event, why not night event? How can he possibly come on a Sunday? What clothes will we be wearing? What is our choice of entertainment? Why am I picking this venue and not that? Why not change the town to one closer to where he lives (and where I don’t live…) and so on and so on. I repeat no one else asked any of these questions nor did they critisized any of our choices. Everyone else said they’re happy to attend. Not brother.

I went as far as to explain the venue in detail to him. Explain how he can find a parking spot at both locations. Offer options for public transport as needed. (He denied this, public transport is beneath him since he bought a new car). I booked him and his wife a two night stay at an expensive hotel with parking provided. He was still not happy. Today he picked a fight with me about parking again. He asked repeatedly where he will park for the courthouse and shut down every option I offered as it seemed inconvenient for him. I don’t know what he expected, maybe a private limo for him for the occasion of my wedding.

After all this parking drama he said our wedding inconvenienced him and his wife a lot and I was being disrespectful. He went as far as to gaslight me that I was being disrespectful to all my guests. No one else has said a single complaint and I even asked most people. Then he said it’s too much of a hussle for them and they will not come.

Honestly I was upset at first but now I am a bit relieved. He clearly never wanted to attend to begin with and was looking for an excuse. Since I did not accommodate his every whim I guess he found one. I cancelled their hotel reservation free of charge.

The wedding is in a few days and I will be spending it without my brother. I am a bit sad. I never imagined such an occasion without him. I don’t know when he changed from my little bro to such a huge self-absorbed prick. I miss the brother I used to have.