I 21M was led on by 19F with avoidance attachment issues?

Hi guys!

So, I 21M have known this girl for around 3 years. First and foremost I have a very photographic memory that most women are attracted too. Regardless, I have been in zero relationships with anyone.

To get to the point, this girl started showing me signs that she might want to be more than friends with me. And I was digging into that and I know the title says otherwise. But regardless, within the first two days she told me everything what was wrong with her life. From her parent divorce to why she’s working and why she’s not attending any university.

I, myself, do both got a full time job and a half time university. That said, it was always me who would reply faster.

Closing the discussion. We fixed a date for when I will be coming to her city. I honestly used to make so much time for her that I would wake up at 4 just to ask her how her work was since she worked nighttime. Much to my knowledge, she was a busy person who would only talk to me as she was going to work?? Or between her breaks??

We flirted a lot. I would make HTML/CSS canvas for her like flowers and all that would take me hours despite me being occupied everyday for 13.5 hours. She didn’t do anything like that and I should’ve expected something from her but I didn’t since I never actually got a relationship and with the way she treated me I developed a craving for her satisfaction??

I am a guy with major trust issues and when this girl told me everything in her life. I told her about my childhood traumas and family issues and something that I hide was how wealthy my family is.

One day she scratched her eyes because of the lenses she wore and I got disappointed because she didn’t take care of herself and scolded her everything was fine I wished her luck for her shift and out of the blue she messaged me DURING her shift that she can’t do this. Asked her for an explanation she told me that she doesn’t have any. Told her if she’s happy with me not being in her life then I will leave.

Forward to a couple days I started getting this instinct of messaging her which I unfortunately did.

Messaged her for 4 days wishing her luck saying I miss her but to no avail did she reply. On the 4th day I lost my mind and decided to call her spammed her 3 missed calls. To which she replied she’s with friends and asked me not to spam.

After which she told me that I’m a good guy and she isn’t ready to commit. At that time u reckoned she didn’t move on from her ex.. I was okay with that and wanted to still be friends? To which she agreed

My biggest mistake, however, was asking her best friend(our mutual) and she asked me how I know she liked me and then I gave her evidence not screenshots or anything but evidence. After that she completely lashed out on me called me obsessive and a creep I panicked and wanted to explain myself. After a few days I decided to cut her best friend off and gave her closure since I didn’t get any from 19F. Her best friend replied to me with she never liked you and that I was a creep?

After 3 weeks went by, she started going more public like hanging out more with our friends and in general making her account public that is when she accepted my request on tiktok and I asked her why? After 3 week she did? She told me she made her account public in a rude manner? Asked her why she’s being so mad about it when it was a genuine question? And that I don’t care what she’s telling others about me I only care what she thought of me and she didn’t have the honesty to tell me that. She replied to me with “21M’s name, I cannot develop feelings for you, how can I force myself to love you?” Keeping in mind she was the one who replied to my story and would interact the most in the beginning I told her that it’s okay if she made a mistake and to learn from it and never to leave with an honest admission.

She replied to me with “did I say I made a mistake?” I lost my mind and argued only for a few minutes and then I told her it’s okay but I’ve always been honest to her and cared for her like I will for my daughter?

Honestly shouldn’t have said that she has major daddy issues. She left me on read.

It’s been a week and I have done everything in my might to get as far away from her as possible.

I get that there’s two sides to every story? But I need to know if she ever actually liked me since she had so many pictures of me in her gallery and would flirt with me as much as she could or was it her abandonment issues that led her to leave me.

For the record, I saw her reposts some of it was about me new ones were about guys that were different from me. So she’s absolutely talking to another one. Meanwhile, I’m out here destroying myself.

Tl;dr: I 21M can’t understand if I was led on by 19F or she ended it because of her attachment issues?