I saw this post on r/AskMenAdvice

"Normal for teen son to cuddle with dad?

My (46m) son (16m) and I have a good relationship I’d say. I’m certainly not “cool” but we get along fine.

About a week ago I was on the couch watching TV and he came in and sat down on the couch beside me and laid his head on my shoulder and put his arms around me and basically cuddled me.

My wife and I just looked at each other with a puzzled look and shrugged. I wasn’t going to complain though. I hugged him back and I played with his hair a bit and rubbed his back some (he was shirtless). We never said anything. After a while he got up and announced he was going to bed.

A few days later he did it again and cuddled me for a bit and then laid his head in my lap. Again I played with his hair some. I had my other arm tucked by my side for a while but that got uncomfortable so eventually I just rested it on my son’s stomach/chest (he was shirtless as usual and laying on his back). I asked how school’s going, I just got a fairly snappy “everything’s fine dad.” We didn’t say anything else.

My wife feels like something must be wrong and I should talk to him about what’s going on. I don’t deny wondering if there’s something causing this new behavior, but I’m just enjoying it while it lasts and I don’t want to “jinx” it. Feel like if I question it he will think I think it’s weird and stop. But I do hope he’s okay.

Also my wife thinks I’m being a little too touchy? She said nothing wrong with some hugging and light cuddling but playing with his hair and rubbing his back and chest is getting a little weird. I was just trying to comfort him and he doesn’t seem to mind so I think it’s fine? Also for the record I didn’t feel like I was “rubbing” his chest, my arm was just kinda resting there. She also finds it a little strange he didn’t put a shirt on.

Do I let my son be and just enjoy the moment? Ask him what’s going on? Is our level of touching appropriate?"

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The situation is weird, but the guy is at least wondering if this is appropriate.

What was the most weird were the comments. 90% or more were celebrating this.

This was one reply with 24 upvotes:

"I would kill for my boy to do this and he’s 12. I think you’re lucky and your wife is probably jealous or a weirdo. Let him talk to you on his terms. Keep the conversation going. Make plans to do something just the two of you."

What the fuck? This guy seems like a total weirdo, and no one is calling it out. He would kill to be able to cuddle with his 12 year old son?

A 16 year old should not be cuddling with their mom, let alone their dad. What is happening to people that they see this as normal? It seems pathological. It is good that the father is asking if this is ok, and it probably is not. His wife has the proper womanly intuition that there is something pathological here, but since progressive people do not believe in sexual differences, they abandon the virtues of a womanly intuition and don't listen to the woman when she is right.

The mother forms an intimate bodily connection with the child, but the child must learn to overcome this dependence and become their individual self. The father has nothing to do with this kind of connection, and his role is to lead by example and be a distant authority on how the child should act.

I don't understand at all how people were cheering this on.