How do you figure out whether you should keep subpar blonde facial hair? I want to know if I would be more attractive to my type without it.

Im not sure how attractive I am but I am tall and white and random people follow my Instagram all the time. I could likely make content and become a C tier insta gay if I wanted to. Im not sure I have a great face card. Im likely above average maybe? I am 25, tall, blonde, and fit with a bit of muscle definition.

My usual type is usually otters and daddies that are mid 30s onwards. Its a pretty frustrating type to have because I don't have a ton of common ground with the folks i'm into and I am certainly a different type then they are. Always navigating whether they are hairy people looking for other hairy people or whether they would consider someone younger and smoother. Not really knowing what to say to them to show interest.

Recently though I have had a sort of lull in my ability to successfully flirt in person and online. It could be the apps are all in a poor state right now or that I have been in this city for awhile so most people know or know about me.

I have for a year or two kept some facial hair mostly because I figure I would do better flirting with my type if I had a beard or looked more mature. The problem is i'm blonde and the hairs are relatively thin so they don't show up as well as they would if I had dark hair. Theres enough follicles in most of the right places but they don't really grow long so I trim them to 3.5mm.

Above my lip is not great right now. And its not very connected to the rest of my facial hair. Doesn't look good so I trim it a bit further down.

Im trying to figure out how to tell whether I would do better just going clean shaven. I have a nice jawline and was hit on maybe equally before I let my facial hair grow out to some form of stubble. I am wondering if there is a way to ask folks/friends for their opinion or somehow sort out whether I should wait to let it be till it can really grow out later in life.

The problem with friends is they are too nice. I feel like everyone is a bit too polite to say if this doesn't look good. How can I figure it out? Id post photos but I think that'd likely give you a bad sense of how it looks compared to being in person.

If I go clean shaven it could take awhile for it to get out to 3.5mm. Like months.

My temptation is to say that no one really compliments me on my stubble often and its not really that great so most likely to people that flirt with me its just a kinda low importance/quality. With that in mind I figure I should shave it because perhaps the weak beard that isn't connected with a great mustache looks bad to others and perhaps they feel more strongly about that.