Is it limerence or is he avoidant ?

Hey,

I have been limerent for the same guy for 8 months and it's driving me insane. We're both 23 (and we are both guys). We are former classmates and went on a few dates in August, we had sex and he made me understand he didn't want it to go further. We ignored each other for a while but then we decided to be friends. For some context, you have to know that this guys is a player in some ways. Yet at this point I really don't believe he's playing with me.

A LOT of things have happened between us since then. It's clearly not a "normal" friendship and my other friends have told me the same thing. Our friendship can be very intense. We have spent hours and hours just the two of us talking about all kinds of stuff (irl, not over texts), and there is a clear spark between us sometimes. We have a lot of things in common, in terms of interests, of how we see life, how we see work ... When we walk together, coming back from events or nightclubs for instance, we always end up just the two of us and it's like none of us wants to leave. I have never felt a spark like this before with someone, and part of me feels like it's mutual but maybe it's just limerence talking. We spent a whole month texting each other every day just to give each other updates about the random stuff we did throughout the day, with some subtle flirtation going on sometimes. I have caught him randomly staring at me when we go to the same parties. His best friends told me that this guy had a crush on me, at least at some point, and I do think that's true.

Yet at other times he will act coldly, with him not trying to initiate conversations or being distant when we see each other in real life. That has been the case this week, the last time we saw each other (with his friends) was on Monday and he was very cold with me, even though I tried to initiate a conversation. Yet once again I caught him staring at me a few times (even though he was at the other side of the table), and when I left he told me "let's see each other soon".

He has introduced me to all of his close friends, even though most of them don't even know one another. since about 3 months, he almost always invites me when he does something fun with his best friend (going to concerts mainly), or when he organizes dinner parties with other friends. He even invited me at a small gathering that wasn't even organized by him. He told me all of his friends like me and that he's happy about it.

It's driving me insane because I feel like this might just be a really really good friendship. But I also feel like there are feelings there between us. And if that's the case, it feels like it's going nowhere and the result will be us starting to ignore each other because he's clearly avoidant.