Genuinely HOW am I supposed to dry out the baby's bum rash if every time I go to change him he screams bloody murder and then pees and shits 3 times right there on the table

I'm so frustrated and upset. I got the aquaphor everyone recommends, I got the butt paste, i even got the hair dryer out. But I can't get him to be dry more than 3 minutes.

My 9 day old infant screams like im killing him and thrashes like an animal in a trap as soon as I strip him. He has so much red irritation around his butthole and in the folds around his penis that looks raw and painful. I feel so bad. I stopped using commercial wipes at all and am using water on resuable soft cloths as of yesterday.

But I CANNOT figure out how I'm supposed to treat this. every single time I check his diaper throughout the day, there's either pee or poop right now. He never dries out. He's breastfed and eating well and just poops and pees allllll day and night long.

By the time I get him dried out on the changing table, he poops again right there on the table, then pee, then pee again. Idk how he holds so much.

On the changing table he's also screaming so much by this point from me trying to wipe or clean him multiple times or put aquaphor on him that he's turning purple and I can't do it anymore. Even using warm water and keeping him warm. I end up giving up and just slapping a diaper on him, me crying, him crying, still damp and not at all dry and fresh, with aquaphor on his bum that just got peed on so idk what it's accomplishing.

Idk what I'm supposed to do here. Just let him scream so I can wipe him down and reapply a 4th time? Have my husband hold him down? Hope he doesn't piss for an hour of the day???