my(21F) boyfriend(24M) saw past sexual pictures and videos of me and exes that I forgot was still in my file safe, and now he feels disgusted with me when he sees me sometimes and doesn't want intimacy. Please tell me. what can I do to not make him feel disgusted with me anymore?
As you can see, I(21F) am in a crisis right now. I was born and raised in another country where sexual stuff is very normal from just a young age. My past relationships pressured me to do the videos and pictures. that was in the past a few years ago, I regretted doing that ever since. but I changed, I am not like that anymore My boyfriend(24M) and I met on october and got together on november last year. last monday he saw the videos and pictures in my file safe when he was trying to save my data on my old phone and moving it to my new phone. I forgot that those were there since thos things was from a few years ago and I changed. when he saw it last monday he wanted to break up then and there. I went to him yesterday, cried and begged he took me back said we could try to work it out, because he cant tolerate with all the wore stuff. todayy we met again, helped him with chores at his house. he was driving me home when he told me I should find a way to get disgusted with me anymore. I cried and felt hurt he was disgusted with me. I thought we were okay because he kissed me earlier. I know my past was not the best I know its hard for someone to love me when I had that kind of past but... does my past define who I am today? am I really a wore? Intimacy is important for him and if he cant get something from someone he will get it from someone else. He says the past is also as important from the present and the future. but he is willing to work it out, even though he hates waiting. Please help me. talking it out wont work. I really do love him.
TL;DR, My boyfriend saw past sexual pictures and videos I forgot was still in my file safe. now he feels disgusted when he sees me sometimes. and doesnt want intimacy anymore. what should i do to fix this?
Posted Apr 9, 2025, 8:24 PM UTC · locked