Unpopular opinion..

I am not a fan of the policing of language that is expected of parents these days.

Instead of “it’s ok” say “I’m here” Instead of “he’s shy” say “he’s taking his time” Instead of “I’m proud of you” say “ you must be proud of yourself”

None of the original phrases are toxic, none of them mean bad things if you say them to an adult (our kids will be adults one day btw…) It takes so much brain power and it’s just one more tiny thing I know strangers will judge me for.

I will keep using the phrases my parents and grandparents used with love and if my kid ever asks me if when I say “I’m proud of you” I’m implying superiority or an imbalance of power… I‘ll just clarify I guess.