Why do people like me??

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I’m 20f, a hella introvert, horrible people pleaser, and almost always doing everything I can to avoid hanging out with people outside of my family and one friend. Ever since my early teens I’ve preferred being alone. Almost every time somebody befriends me, they ask me to hang out a lot, text me a lot, never pick up on my social cues or take a hint from me avoiding plans with excuses like “I’m too tired” or “I’m busy”.

I’m not a particularly interesting person, I’m really quiet for the most part, generally don’t speak unless spoken to, I rarely leave the house other than for work or occasionally hanging out with my one friend. I had a friend for years that never picked up on my disinterest, I would pity laugh at videos they showed me, and because of that they thought I just thought everything was funny. I never acted very energetic or super happy around them, made excuses to avoid making plans, would wait hours or sometimes days to respond to texts, and they continued to be completely oblivious to the fact that I’d rather be alone, and absolutely loved my company.

I’ve had quite a few friends that just couldn’t comprehend how I like being alone, but that one was by far the most oblivious. I do these things with most people other than my best friend (still sometimes because a lot of the time I genuinely am tired or busy), I have a sort of monotone voice unless I’m in a really good mood, and generally I just think I’m a really boring person, so please can somebody tell me why anybody likes me?? Even my best friend has told me I’m boring, yet I’m somehow her favourite person??? Am I missing something???? Some old friends (including the oblivious friend I mentioned) sometimes reach out to me like “we should hang out it would be so fun!” And I just kind of sidestep it until the conversation is over. IM NOT COOL. IM VERY BORING. I DONT GET IT 😭😭

Posted Apr 9, 2025, 8:26 PM UTC

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