Are adult friendships always like this?

How do you guys make new CLOSE friends/maintain existing ones? Where do you meet new people?

I found myself in a situation where childhood friends either live far and communication is not frequent but quality or our lives became so different that we have nothing to talk about. My ‘friend’ since birth, who I counted as my sister started ghosting me and said not very nice things to me once my life’s stabilized so I had to cut her off.

Similarly, with people that I met later in life via social occasions or work. I would end up being friends for years with them until again, my life would improve and I would become not relevant recently. For example, I recently got engaged and one of my supposed ‘friends’ doesn’t find me relevant anymore. Her relationship is crumbling and she doesn’t want me to do well.

Why not support each other, instead of waiting for one to suffer?

I equally don’t ghost people and reply whenever I’m free. Communication is a form of respect and to me, if someone disappears on you - you are just not important to them enough. Silence speaks volumes! Recently, the past few years, I tend to remove myself from people, who are ‘busy’ weeks on end. They are surely not busy scrolling online and replying to other people!